Episode 39

The Danger of Shaping Our Kids Like Us

As parents, we want what's best for our kids, no matter what that may relate to - school, fun, love, etc. We sign them up for new adventures, hoping they'll find enjoyment there.

But are we really signing them up for stuff that they want to do, or stuff that we want them to do, with the belief that we, the parents, aren't being selfish?

These questions came to me as a moment of realization a couple of years ago, when my son decided he no longer wanted to do martial arts, something I'd done as a younger man and was now pleased to see my son take an interest in.

Topics on today's show include

  • Why we need to remember kids are still just kids
  • Why we need to step back and ask the reasons we want them to do something
  • Why disappointment isn't the best approach
  • Why we need to let kids choose what makes them happy, as opposed to what we feel will

Settle back for a chat about lessons from kids, and adults realizing that selfishness and encouragement tread a very fine line sometimes.

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Life Through a Dram
Life Through a Dram sees Danny Brown's take on life, being a better person, and appreciating the here and now, all accompanied by a dram of fine single malt whisky.

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Danny Brown

Danny is a podcaster, creator, and an official geek. Sometimes in that order. He's the host of the shows Podcaster Stories, and Best Canadian Podcasts, as well as co-host of Mental Health & Us with his wife Jaclyn. When not podcasting, you can find him relaxing in beautiful Muskoka, Ontario, Canada, hanging out with his family, and enjoying a good craft beer.